homines cuod volunt credunt
- Oct 22, 2017
- 3 min read
It is a common belief that life is unfair. While we work our hardest, it gives us truckloads of nonstop problems. Because of these, we are forced to question ourselves; what have we done to deserve this? Why is this happening to us? Why me? Why us? Why?
But, let me ask you, do you think you deserve better than what you have? Do you think your worthy of having the life you think you so - deserve? Who are you to complain that life is unfair? Have you done anything to change the course of your fate? Have you? Did you?
If, in some drastic change, life became fair, do you think you will attain everything you want in life? If life was the kind of fair that you wanted, will you be rich? Will you be successful? Will you be a legend? Will you be everything you wish you would be?
The problem isn’t that life is unfair, it is our broken idea of fairness. We think that life is unfair because it does not approach our own reality in an unpainful way. People have innate sense of what is right and what is wrong, and, more often than not, they expect the world to comply. Our idea of fairness is unobtainable, it is merely clouded with wishful thinking. We only think that life is fair when we always win and get everything we want. We think that fairness is getting everything we prayed for with a snap of a finger. The real world does not work this way.
Life plays on rules whose results are then decided on what we do. It is a cause and effect process; a give and take. We grumble and weep about that one person who never chose us. We complain that our teacher won’t accept our answer, because they don’t agree with us; and they should have. Why? Because in our pitiful minds, we are an unquestionable entity. Our own self – centeredness drives us to think and believe what we want to believe even if it isn’t correct.
According to research, there are three things that lead us to think that life is unfair. First is that our subconscious mind will be so humiliated that it cannot accept the fact that we weren’t competent enough to find a solution to our problems and to deal with the consequences of our actions, which is why, it doesn’t nor will it ever declare defeat directly. Instead, the brain will search for any possible reasons not to blame itself. The phrase “Life is Unfair is just defense mechanism used as a decoy to protect our ego.
Another thing is our wrong belief that the best reward goes to those who have done the best thing, but, real world runs the opposite way. The best rewards go to the person who impacts the most people. Society judges you by what you can do for other rather than to yourself. Skills and talents are not prized by virtue. An internal sense of honour and duty doesn’t count if your abilities don’t impact many people.
Lastly, we must never deny to ourselves that life is a series of complicated challenges that judges the outcome of our future. The great thing about our civilization is that it’s full of possibilities and opportunities, and if you unruled the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth. However, if we get anything besides what we want, then we will think that life is playing a foul game on us; that life is being unfair for putting us in this an unwanted situation.
Life is fair, because it gives us what is due us, and what we need. Life is fair because it dies not create a situation where we can excel. It depends on us to create our own circumstances depending on our own choices. Nonetheless, remember, however these circumstances turn out, and however these people make you feel, is not some cosmic judgement against your being. This is just a consequence of being alive, and being a flawed human.
REFERENCE:
https://oliveremberton.com/2014/the-problem-isnt-that-life-is-unfair-its-your-broken-idea-of-fairness/
https://kelechiochulo.wordpress.com/2015/09/10/life-is-fair-because-it-is-unfair-to-everyone/
https://www.scienceofthesoul.org/product_p/en-184-0.htm
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